Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

August 25, 2024 6 mins

Can I Distance Myself from Harmful Family Members?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question The challenges I am facing in my married life due to interference from my parents and siblings have led me to make the difficult decision to distance myself from them. The discussions initiated by my parents with other family members and friends have only made things worse and created […]
August 25, 2024 2 mins

What to Do with a Husband Who Only Says “I Love You for the Sake of Allah?”

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I want to know that my sadness is okay when my husband keeps telling me that he loves me only for the sake of Allah. It feels like he is doing a duty only and not actually loving me. It feels like he is taking care only because it’s […]
August 25, 2024 2 mins

Why Is the Husband Not Obliged to Share a Bedroom with the Wife?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I heard that in Islam, spouses don’t have to share the same bedroom. However, if the husband wants them to share a room then it becomes obligatory. If the wife wants to share a room, does it also become obligatory on the husband? What if this means something to […]
August 23, 2024 2 mins

How Do I Explain to My Mother That I Want to Take Off My Hijab, as a 12-Year-Old...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am 12 years old. I put on the hijab when I was nine years old in the heat of the moment because, at school, everyone would bully me for being the odd one out. My mom talked to me about the hijab and I felt so pressured, I […]
August 7, 2024 3 mins

Should a Woman Wash Toward the Inside When Performing Istinja?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question After urinating, the external part of the vagina, that is, labia majora and the visible part of the labia minora should, be washed, or can we put water in the internal area, which is inside the labia minora? I have heard that only external areas have to be washed, […]
August 7, 2024 2 mins

Does a Muslim Wife Have the Right to Separate Home Entry From her In-Laws?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Living with my in-laws, I have a separate living area but my husband insists I use the main entrance through his parents’ area instead of our separate one. Does Islam permit me to have my entryway and exit? Answer I am unfamiliar with a wife having the right to […]
July 27, 2024 3 mins

How Can an Asexual Person Define Desire?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As an asexual individual, I struggle to discern if my discharge or gaze is sexual or lustful, as I am unfamiliar with the sensation of desire. This confusion impacts my behavior, such as when to lower my gaze, and has led to misunderstandings with mahrams, who feel ignored and […]
July 27, 2024 3 mins

Can a Non-Binary Muslim Marry a Non-Muslim?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a non-binary Muslim engaged to a non-believer, I’m conflicted about marrying them given my renewed commitment to Islam. Can I reconcile this relationship with my faith, considering my partner’s reluctance to convert? Answer Thank you for your question. I feel I don’t have enough details to answer your […]
July 21, 2024 3 mins

What Do I Do as a 14-Year-Old Convert Who Gets Beaten for Praying?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a 14-year-old living with an Islamophobic parent who beats me for praying. Today, I got up 10 minutes after Fajr. There’s a security camera in my room, and I can’t have an alarm clock. I always try to pray on time and haven’t missed a prayer deliberately. […]
July 21, 2024 4 mins

How Can I Deal with My Newlywed Wife Who Hates Touch and Conversation?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I recently got married. Despite my efforts, my wife only responds to direct questions and doesn’t engage in conversation. We lack common interests and often spend our days in silence. After two months, we discussed intimacy, but her behavior made me feel like I was forcing her, so I […]
July 21, 2024 2 mins

Can You Help Me Get Over My Paranoia That My Kids Will Be Harmed?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have severe anxiety that my toxic in-laws will hurt my children. I fear losing control and something bad happening to them. Is my fear valid or am I low in iman? I know children are a responsibility according to Allah and that no one can harm them without […]
July 21, 2024 2 mins

Can a Woman Wear Revealing Clothes at Home If Her Husband Doesn’t Request It?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it obligatory for women to cover from navel to knee when alone, and is it sinful if not done? Are shorts reaching the thighs or tight clothing like leggings covering this area sinful? Can a woman wear revealing clothes to attract her husband even if he doesn’t ask […]
July 21, 2024 2 mins

What Should I Do as My Wife Needs Sex during Her Period?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question During my wife’s period, she experiences pain and minimal blood flow, but her sex drive increases. Sex relieves her pain and normalizes blood flow, but without it, spotting lasts over 10 days. We know sex during menstruation is forbidden. How can we handle this situation? Answer Thank you for […]
July 21, 2024 2 mins

Why Are There Such Few Female Scholars?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Are there any female Islamic scholars who have issued fatwas besides our mother `A’isha (Allah be pleased with her)? If not, why are so few female scholars recognized for delivering fatwas? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, there are female scholars from Islamic history other than Sayyida ’Aisha; […]
July 21, 2024 3 mins

Is It Permissible to Pray Allah Does Not Grant Me Children?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible to ask Allah to prevent me from having children due to my trauma and mental state, considering I believe living child-free is best for me? Answer Thank you for your question. Your supplication would be permissible but is contrary to the Sunna and tradition of our […]
July 20, 2024 5 mins

How Do We Deal with the Devastation of Finding Out Our Son Is Gay?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I just listened to your podcast #13, “The Lawful & The Prohibited,” and felt that you’re talking about my son! We’re in Canada, he’s 18, and only a month ago we found out that he’s gay. We’re devastated. We tried to seek help on how to handle the situation, […]
July 3, 2024 3 mins

Has My Husband Divorced Me Unintentionally?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband and I are good at the moment, but I still worry occasionally because we have argued many times. He has said many words in anger that could mean separation. He said he did not intend to divorce. But I don’t know if I should believe him as […]
June 15, 2024 4 mins

What Should I Do with a Husband Who Refuses to Work and Provide?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My husband of 15 years has never supported us financially except for three paychecks. For ten years, I gave him the excuse that he had to serve Allah, but in the end, he just spent all these years on the net, watching movies, social media, and playing games. He […]
June 15, 2024 3 mins

How Can I Have Good Relationships with My Siblings?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’ve noticed narcissistic traits in my family, especially my brother. Despite the abuse, I desire a relationship with him. However, he avoided me after I called the police, and he was caught. He is manipulative, so I confronted him, and he still tries to manipulate and gaslight and then […]
June 14, 2024 4 mins

What Should I Do If I Feel Work Interferes with Raising My Kids?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Before marriage, my husband reassured me that I wouldn’t be expected to work, and his family said they were well off. I married him on this premise as I wanted to spend quality time with my children and bring them up as best I could. However, this did not […]
May 9, 2024 2 mins

Is It Backbiting to Tell Your Friend That Your Teacher Is Unfair?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I think my teacher hates me and he always asks other students if they need help, except me. Is it considered backbiting if you tell your friend about how the teacher ignores you? Answer Thank you for your question. Yes, it is backbiting to tell your friend this, unless […]
May 7, 2024 2 mins

What Should I Do About My Converted Husband Who Doesn’t Practice Isam?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I married 11 years ago to a man who converted to Islam before the wedding. For some years, he has said that he can’t feel Islam in his heart and that it is too difficult. We have three children who I raised as Muslim, and he helps me take […]
May 6, 2024 3 mins

What Is the Point of Being Religious Outside and Horrible at Home?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Why be outwardly religious if one can’t be just? Religious individuals supporting my father’s unjust actions are making me question myself. I’d rather abandon the hijab than be religious and corrupt. Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with how you feel, and you are right to want […]
April 29, 2024 1 min

Is It Permissible to Wear a Jacket over an Abaya or Must It Be under the Khimar?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible to wear a jacket or coat over an abaya and khimar, or should we wear the khimar over the jacket to cover the shoulders? I heard that it isn’t permissible to show the shoulders’ shape. Answer Thank you for your question. Either way is fine, as […]
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