03- Mother and husband not on good terms- Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode, Ustadha Raidah deals with a heartbreaking situation where a mother is trying to blackmail her daughter to divorce her husband and is threatening to confiscate her passport.

Ustadha Raidah delves into the mental reasons behind abuse: from anxiety to control tendencies to narcissistic personalities. These problems usually do not happen overnight and are indicative of the environment which the person had grown up in. In extreme cases such as these, safety is key, as well as having a plan to leave a dangerous environment, and finding trustworthy people to help.

She also urges people who have left abusive situations to keep themselves safe and begin setting healthy boundaries with the people who are abusing them, in order to avoid a repeat of old patterns. For the same reason, she stresses that people who have left such situations and choose to come to visit, should not do so alone, but should come with a spouse or other trusted figure.

For people who are dealing with long-term abuse, and maybe feeling unwanted, she reassures them that they are deserving of love, and recommends professional help. In addition, apps such as Calm and Headspace can help feelings of anxiety, as well as Chaplain Ibrahim J. Long’s Selected Prophetic Prayers for Spiritual, Physical and Emotional Wellbeing.