07 Told by Parents to Cut Ties with Brother – Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

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In this episode,  Ustadha Raidah tackles another complex family problem, as she is asked whether a person should choose between their parents or keeping ties with their brother.
The questioner is a young woman whose brother fell in love with a woman four years ago, who is extremely disrespectful to his family. They are determined to get married, but the parents are very hurt by what has happened, will not come to the wedding, and want their daughter to have no contact with him. The woman also has two children from a previous relationship.
Ustadha Raidah encourages us to look deeper into this situation and prioritize the short-term for the long-term. Cutting off family ties is not just wrong, but it can cut off any opportunity for reconciliation or forgiveness. In addition, when innocent children are involved, they can be easily affected by the adults’ actions, which adds more responsibility to all parties.
A person can see a situation in two ways; with a problem mindset, which focuses on the problem, or a growth mindset, which asks what can be done to benefit from the situation.

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